Online dating is very popular. It’s not difficult to see why, since it enables people to meet others from the comfort of their homes, without having to make much of an effort.
However, a big problem that a lot of people face when meeting people that they have met online in person is starting a conversation. After talking to somebody exclusively online for a long period of time, shifting into the real world can be very difficult.
This post will tell you how you can talk to girls you have met online, in real life.
Meeting Girls
Before you can meet girls in real life, you need to meet them online. You need to be clear about what you want when you are searching for women online. If you are just after sex, then use a hookup site. If you want a relationship, then use a dating site. In the words of pros from hookup.app, hook-up sites give you the opportunity to meet girls nearby, either for sex or just to talk. Before meeting anybody on the internet for sex in real life, you need to verify their identity and meet them in a public place first, so you know they are who they say they are.
Continued Jokes
When you have been talking to a woman online for a while, it’s highly likely that the two of you have inside jokes, that only you both understand. If this is the case, then a good way to break the ice and start a conversation is to continue these jokes and make them in person. However, it is important to note that it’s a bad idea to continuously utter old jokes because it can make you seem stagnant and boring.
Don’t Stare
A big mistake that a lot of people make when they meet their internet crushes online is to stare. If you stare at her, she could become uncomfortable. Women don’t like it when you stare at them intensely. In fact, nobody does! While it is perfectly fine to appreciate your crush’s beauty or appearance, do it subtly. With that said, you shouldn’t avoid looking at her, either. You need to find balance. When she is talking to you, maintain eye contact with her. When she isn’t then you can look away.
Open-ended Questions
Open-ended questions are a highly effective way of starting a conversation. Conversations don’t come naturally to a lot of people. If you are one such person and struggle to start them, then open-ended questions are definitely worth considering. When asking an open-ended question make sure that it’s pertinent to the conversation or situation at hand. A lot of people make the mistake of asking random, completely unrelated questions when they are talking to their crushes. This can make you seem strange. A good open-ended question to ask is, “What do you see yourself doing in the future?”
Give Compliments
You should always compliment your crush when you meet them in person, so you can reinforce your attraction to her. However, don’t make the mistake of constantly, almost obsessively, complimenting her. Unfortunately, a lot of people do this when they meet their e-crushes, and this can make them very uncomfortable. You can compliment her two or three times, but no more. The compliments that you give shouldn’t be the same, either. If you keep repeating “You’re beautiful,” she is going to get bored. Try to keep your compliments original and make sure that you don’t repeat them more than once.
Add Humour
Humour is essential. If you aren’t a naturally funny person then you might struggle to talk to somebody you are meeting from a dating or hook-up site for the first time. Humour can be an extremely effective way of breaking the ice and making conversations flow. Again, if you are not naturally funny, then this could be a problem for you. One way to get around this is to research jokes online before meeting your date. You can then keep the conversation serious and lighten it up with a few jokes here and there. Try to avoid telling corny jokes.
Comfortable Setting
Make sure that the place you meet your date is somewhere that’s comfortable for both of you. If the person that you are meeting doesn’t drink alcohol for example, then taking them to a bar is a very bad idea. Similarly, if you don’t eat a certain type of food then going to a restaurant where it’s served could make you uncomfortable. If you decide to go for a walk but it’s very cold outside, then you could both feel uncomfortable. The place that you meet needs to be somewhere that’s safe, familiar, and comfortable for both of you.
Initiate Contact
If you have met somebody from a hook-up app and intend on having sex after your first meeting, then with their consent, initiate contact. Initiating contact with them will help you to determine whether or not they are still interested in having sex with you. There are many things that you can do to initiate contact, from putting your hand on top of theirs to giving her a hug. If she seems very eager, then you could even kiss her. If she pulls away, then it is a strong indication that she is no longer interested. If on the other hand, she returns the kiss, you can move on to the next step, going home…
Going Home
After meeting someone from a hook-up site, the logical next step to take is to go back home and have sex. Some people feel uncomfortable taking strangers to their house, though, so you might want to book a hotel room. You can get a cheap hotel room for a couple of hours. If you have both agreed to stay overnight in a hotel, then you can book a room for the night, which will be a little more expensive. If you are comfortable taking her home (and she’s comfortable going) then that is the cheapest and potentially even the safest option.
Meeting a girl in real life after you have been talking on a dating site for a while can be daunting. It’s very easy to mess up the first meeting and ruin several months’ worth of conversations. You need to carefully plan out your first meeting so that you don’t ruin yours.
